Marilyn’s Soul Sessions
“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.” ~Margaret Mead
Do you have people who see, support, and celebrate you? Are there people who are consistently there for you and will lovingly tell you the truth when you need to hear it?
We all need that type of group in our lives, but many people don’t have it. For several of us, even our family wasn’t like that.
Weekly Wisdom: Think about what your life would be like right now if you were in a group of like-minded people. How would your life be different if you were consistently getting loving support?
Walter Winchell said, “A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” If you don’t have friends like that, it’s time to get some.
Why is it so important? Part of what makes you suffer in life is being surrounded by people who try to pull your dreams out of you just to squash them. You don’t deserve that! It’s possible to be around people who see your dreams and know that you’re capable of even more than you realize.
Another reason to make sure you find your tribe is that when you’re struggling with things financially, it can be because you don’t feel like your gifts are worthy. When others support you and have your back, your self-worth and financial worth often grow at the same time.
Before I get to the three tips to help you with your group, here’s a quick reminder that I’m offering training that includes a free month of Membership for Your Soul…a great place to be around like-minded people. You can learn more here:
Maybe you’ve not found a group because you’ve been afraid of being judged, taken advantage of, or not being masterful enough to let your true self be seen. I can relate. At 13, I stopped talking because I was made fun of for everything I said. I was put down, called stupid, and told I was a loser…by my family!
But, it’s important to stop hiding. There are people who will love you regardless of if you’re up or down in life.
I was lucky to find a good group in high school, not so lucky in college, but was then later assigned to a townhouse with a bunch of girls who became like family to me. Even when I wasn’t talking to my family and was going through some major trauma, these girls were there for me. They had my back and understood how to support me when I was down and be there for me.
There are people like that for you, too. Why keep your gifts tucked away or keep yourself small when you can make a positive impact on other people and help them be brave and seen and loved too?
Tip #1: Find a group where you can start being brave.
We thirst for a physical connection because we’re raised with it through family, school, community, and church. You want to look into someone’s eyes, have them hold your hand, and know that they’ve got you, see you, know you, and love you.
But sometimes, local communities don’t have that. Please know that if someone isn’t allowing you to be brave, it’s their crap causing them to treat you poorly. It has nothing to do with you, so don’t you believe them!
Maybe your local community isn’t squishing you, but it isn’t supporting you, either. Perhaps people talk the talk, but they aren’t walking the walk. And for whatever reason, you aren’t quite ready to be a trailblazer and help them transform. If that’s the case, move on to the next tip.
Tip #2: If you can’t find a local community that’s a good fit, find a virtual community that is.
We tend to forget that virtual groups are a good option, and not just for people who live in remote areas. Sometimes your neighborhood is too expansive even if it’s highly populated. Virtual groups can’t give you the physical support, but they can be exactly what you need. They can help you get brave enough to live your truth and be a trailblazer.
A virtual group can even help you come back to your local community and lead them. I can guarantee that other people are hiding in your local area, too. They want a healthy tribe, but they’re also scared to be themselves and help others.
Tip #3: If you have to, consider paying for something you enjoy or want to learn as a way of finding like-minded people.
You can pay for a class, certification, mastermind, Toastmasters, coach, etc.
I’m a spiritual teacher. I’ve done readings for people all over the world, been part of telesummits, and worked with thousands of people. But when I tried to connect with other people doing similar work, I didn’t like most of them. They didn’t feel authentic. They had a spiel that worked to get clients, but they weren’t walking the walk.
I want real people who are intelligent, forward-moving, expansive, spiritual, and who understand that meditation alone won’t bring abundance—I want people who walk their walk and keep it real.
Honestly, I had to start paying to find the type of people I want around me. I signed up for tennis, a yoga certification, and coaching. And when I did, it freed me. Those experiences made me realize I was worth so much more than I was initially willing to accept.
I felt worthy and like I was finally being seen and understood. The brackets others had put on my dream were being pushed away, and I didn’t have to beg to be seen. As my self-worth improved, I realized that I had so much more to offer than I had even realized when I started the journey.
What to do when you don’t know where to start.
Write down three things you’d like to learn or are interested in, and start searching for like-minded people in those areas. If you aren’t sure what you’re interested in, watch the Live from this week and see if there are any ideas others shared that pop out for you.
➔ Here’s the Facebook Live
Next week, join me on Wednesday at 11am Pacific for the next FB Live. The topic is a surprise, but I know you’re going to love it!
If you’d like to check out my virtual tribe, you can get a free month of it when you buy training for channeling (and yes, everyone can channel!). You can learn more here:
xo,
Marilyn
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